I've been accused of speaking negatively to Amy in these comments, so I hesitate to say anything more. It is a pity that one can't really be critical, or even disagree strongly without being adversely labeled.
I don't see anything wrong by Amy being a success in our field; more power to her. I am not responding to the course she has taken, but to the essay she contributed to this series.
In this essay, Amy used an number of derogatory terms in her writing that degenerate the rest of us who have chosen to take a different course from her. Words such as 'whining' and 'victim', which can only be viewed as an attempt to demean the rest of us.
If Amy wants to demonstrate being a successful woman in tech by being a successful woman in tech, great. What happened in this writing, though, is that she basically threw the rest of us under the bus.
"Here I am," she seems to say. "I don't complain because I believe that only I'm responsible for what happens to me." Anything that follows, then, has been relegated to 'complaint', if not out and out 'whine'.
How very comfortable for those who prefer the status quo. How much more difficult for those who fight real discrimination, bias, and sexism in this industry. And make no mistake: all three are very real.
Whining and victims. To think I would hear our effort reduced in such a way. People wanting to generate lasting change, who point out obvious bias and discrimination, who actively push awareness of the issues facing women in technology are not victims, and neither is what we're saying 'whining'--far from it.
What's sad is that Amy probably has benefited from the work, past and present, of the very women she seems to hold in such little regard. I don't consider that acting very responsibly. However, that's my opinion, Amy has hers, you have yours. I guess we'll have to just accept the fact that we disagree.